I have always believed in the young people that I work with. Even when working in a juvenile detention center with teens who had been caught smuggling drugs across the border, I recognized that their circumstances had put them in a difficult situation that someone of that age should never have to deal with. But in these cases and in most others, I always thought that all that these young people needed was to learn and use the right skills in order to turn things around. With a steady dose of commitment, a positive attitude and an openness to feedback these challenging cases could turn themselves around. What I failed to see was that instead of believing that something outside of these teens needed to be put in, the answer might lie in bringing the right things out. And then I began learning about strengths-based education.
Jumping on the coat-tails of the mindset revolution, I was initially skeptical about an approach that proclaimed we all have certain strengths that we should focus on to be successful. This sounded too much like another personality assessment that told us which box to fit ourselves into. But the idea behind strengths-finding is not to label people, but to change the way we see people. It has become natural for educators, parents and bystanders to observe challenging youth and decide what is wrong with them. He has no drive. She is a trouble-maker. He just isn’t smart enough. And of course these young people know very well what all these adults are saying. So it’s no surprise how that self-fulfilling prophecy plays out.
So instead the strengths approach says let’s take a look at what these young people ARE good at and see if we can find more ways for them to do those things in daily life. After learning more about the 24 strengths, young people can find out what they should do more of to thrive and understand why they might be challenged in other situations. But it isn’t just a crutch people can lean on to blame poor behavior. “Sorry I stole that, I just don’t have honesty as a virtue.” Instead each of them acts as a knob on a stereo. Sometimes we might need to turn one up in a situation, other times we might need to turn one down. It’s like a DJ booth for your character.
While the jury is still out on the long-term effects of using these strengths as a basis for educational policy, there is ample research to suggest that including them creates significant results. But the biggest difference I have seen in observing teachers that have learned about the strengths is that instead of hearing things like, “He just can’t take anything seriously,” I instead hear, “It is obvious he is very strong in humor and it creates a lot of positive energy, but I wonder if we can get him to turn it down in some situations.” Focusing on strengths gives youth a sense of pride and control over who they are, and gives educators a tool to look for the good in students and use that to move them in a positive direction.
So when Dane is a teenager and it seems like all he is good at is driving us crazy, I am going to take a closer look and find out what strengths he is using to be so irritating. And then I am going to acknowledge that strength because I know that if he gets a chance to use his strengths to contribute to the world, what was once annoying might one day change the world.